Human investments

When you have a problem you decide how to handle it and how to look at it. And I decided to use it to explain something that might be an eye-opener to some of you.

As a Professional Dog trainer I have learned to study behaviors and patterns and in today's society, we have a tendency to not appreciate the things that are given to us freely or easily. This is the mentality of humans. It is really not nice but this is how it is.

It becomes pretty clear if we take a look at the shelters and rehoming ads of pets today. It is most of the time the cheap mix breeds that are up for adoption and sent to the shelters, dumped in the woods or euthanized when they are ill instead of receiving medical treatment etc.
Pedigree dogs and cats hold a higher value and people seem to take care of them much more, they get medical treatments for them, they go to doggy school, they take out insurance for them and they are rarely sent to the shelters. Why is that? Because they are much more expensive to purchase and people have INVESTED more money into the pedigree pet so it has a higher value.

It is the same with horses, you can get a cheap mix breed horse that has been rehomed 15 times and finally it ends up as a hamburger on your table because they don't want to spend money on medical bills or when they are tired of caring for it. How often do you think that happens to a horse that costs 50.000 Euros to purchase? Do you think they buy the cheap saddle for that horse or a more expensive one? Of course the more expensive one.

Heck even lock at the foster/daycare today, so many kids in foster/daycare today are treated so much worse than the carers own kids, why? They haven't invested emotions, time and money in the child, they didn't carry it for 9 months and they didn't stay up at night to nurse it when it was ill.

The same goes for us Women, a basic chick who is paying for her man to sit home all day and bends over backward for him, she gets cheated on, yelled at, she gets used and abused, she is nothing more than a free pussy and he will leave her and her wet behind when he comes across something more valuable. This is why I cut Mr Z off immediately when he stopped investing in Me. I refuse to be that basic woman.

But men who INVEST his time and money in his woman tends treats Her better. A Woman who is high maintenance seldom gets divorced or cheated on. Why? Because She is VALUABLE and he knows it will cost him so much more if he loses Her. And a smart Woman returns the favor by VALUING his efforts. They are both INVESTING in each other. This is what most people miss when it comes to relationships. You might read My posts here about a generous sub, about how I want to be cared for. There are a reason and logic behind everything I do. And every time I step away from it and lower My standards to fit in the shit hits the fan. This is why I don't INVEST My time and energy in online chat or games if the sub haven't INVESTED in Me. It is never going to happen.

When you take ownership of a man's cock and orgasms, magical things happen to his behavior. That's why I want to have a man in chastity. Besides, we all know that you are not capable to control that thing anyway. And when you take a mans money in combination with his orgasms, then you get his undivided attention and emotional investment and that is when he gets to feel the reward of all of his efforts.

And until this day, the most valuable gift I have ever received was an old Braun electric toothbrush, not because it was very expensive at the time, but because he took every last penny he had, he even walked to the store to buy it because if he took the bus he wouldn't be able to buy it for My birthday. That was more than 17 years ago. So it isn't about the amount that was spent, it is about the effort, the sacrifice and investment.

~ Lady Blaze 💋

Mr Z is such a gentleman..

Mr Z was just here and it ended with Me slamming the door in his face after calling him a son of a bitch. I was fuming and I am still upset. I hope I don't run into him and that he keeps his mouth shut if I do.

Mr Z has kittens that I watched for him, for free, both when he left for Ankara and when he urgently left because his friend was ill. One of them destroyed My earphones and when I told him about it he said don't worry, he would buy new ones for Me. To Me it is kind of important because I need them to sleep and you all know My current financial situation.

Today when I wrote to him reminding him about it, he came around here and was angry and demanded money for the rainboots he bought for Me a few months back (I thought it was as a gift) and that I return the money he sent me when he was away. I never asked him to send Me any money or to buy the boots but it all equals $40 in total. He spent so much time here, behaved like My boyfriend, took up My time, drank My wine, ate My food and now he is asking Me for $40?! What am I missing here? Does this mean that I should charge him for the unsatisfying sex we had and the cat sitting I did for free? I'm just asking..

It is sad when you genuinely liked someone and they just use people. I missed him so much when he was away in Ankara and I was longing for him to come back but when I realized that his words were all empty and he left Me in a really difficult predicament then I lost all feelings. It became even worse when he said some really insulting things to Me about who I should date. I totally flatlined, and now when I look at him I just feel disgusted. I can't be with a man I can't trust, who doesn't have My back and doesn't care for Me, I just can't.

I want a genuine, loving D/s relationship with My main partner and possibly lovers. It goes against all of My personal beliefs to use people, I cannot be with a person just because of his money. I would feel sick to My stomach. I still believe in love, but I am really disappointed in so-called men. This is why I want a generous and genuinely submissive man. I am so done with the vanilla men that you wouldn't believe it!

I need to meditate and perhaps use Neville Goddards revision technique and revise the situation. I definitely didn't need this extra drama in My life. Oh, I really hope My visitors will come in January, I need something positive to look forward to.

~ Lady Blaze 💋

Lady Blaze and Mr Z

It is an amazing feeling when you meet someone who loves you exactly the way you are. It is even more wonderful when a kinky person like Myself meets a vanilla Alpha man who totally supports this side of Me and takes his role as My lover and My champion. So I want to introduce you to Mr Z, he is a tall silver fox, a gentleman who spent some time in the Turkish army and he is very capable in many areas. *giggles* But you losers wouldn't know anything about that because you will never be able to please Women like Me. The only thing we can do with you and your wiggle worms is to lock you up and keep it out of sight! A steel cage that is permanently locked! Wouldn't you like that?

There will be some short stories about Me and Mr Z coming up in the near future that might turn you cuckolds on. ;) At least you will get a glimpse of how a real Alpha satisfies a woman.